How to spend quality time with your spouse when you have little ones | Maegan
Healthy marriage relationships start when the wife and husband are happy together.
Maegan is going to share some great tips for strengthening your marriage–specifically, how to spend quality time with your husband.
Raising kids is great, but can be an obstacle in finding time to spend with your husband. And let’s face it, after a long day of wiping boogers, reading “How Does a Dinosaur Say Goodnight” like 12 times, cleaning up an endless supply of messes, trying to stand your ground through a tantrum, making food, then playing “here comes the choo-choo” so they will eat it, then dishes, then making food, then “choo-choo,” then dishes, and so many other “pleasant tasks” that we do as mothers, giving any more of your time to someone else at the end of the day can be a daunting thing. But let’s not forget how we got those sweet little trouble makers that we love enough to sacrifice so much for… it all started when you fell in love with that dear man! And, chances are, he doesn’t have it easy either. My poor husband puts in long hours on swing shift so that we can have all of the things we need and more. He is sacrificing a lot as well, but he makes the sacrifice outside of our home, away from his family, and at the end of his night he needs me! And that’s pretty cool! So ladies, somehow in your hectic life make some time for your man!
Doll yourself up!
I had a good friend that I used to live by and she would always do a cleanup on the house and fix her hair and makeup before her husband came home. She called herself a “fifties wife” and I have to tell you, I sure do hope to someday be a little more like her. While I don’t get all fixed up for my husband every day, I do put in an extra effort at least a couple of times a week, especially on date night. You used to make yourself beautiful for him every time you saw him. Let him know that you still are crazy about him!
It needs to happen–for both of you to keep your sanity! I LOVE date night (or date day in our case) and I truly, truly look forward to it. Talk to your husband and share your date night ideas. Find a sitter that you trust. I always use family, but I do have a few very close friends that I could use as well. Put it on the calendar, and don’t let anything take precedence over your night together. And while you’re out, don’t spend your whole time worrying about the kids! They will be ok.
Establish a bedtime for your kids and stick to it!
Unless it’s a special occasion, my guy needs to be in bed by 8… granted, I’m not a perfect mom, and since bedtime is a nightmare for me and my boy, 8 sometimes drags into 9 or 9:30. But when he is down by 8, life is magical. It gives me and my husband time to unwind and time to be us, the us we were when we fell in love.
Make time for your husband when your kids are around!
They need to know how important he is to you. Hold his hand whenever you can. Sit by him. I try to always sit by my husband and not let our little guy sit in between. I sit by my husband at dinner and during family movie night. Our boy gets most of my attention, so I try to give my husband a little extra whenever I can. Listen to him when he is talking and respond to what he is saying. Go to bed at the same time! Pillow talk is a great way to squeeze in some extra time together.
Don’t forget that he is the love of your life and you guys are supposed to make life easier for each other.
Maegan is a stay at home mom. She lives in Lehi, UT with her dreamy husband, Joe and their son Wylie. She enjoys camping, boating, photography, refinishing furniture, and yard work. Her favorite foods are cheesy potatoes and tacos. Her guilty pleasures are milkshakes, eating out, and TV series. Her ultimate advice to new moms would be to stop worrying about all of the technicalities of parenthood. Your baby was sent to you for a reason, so just enjoy your child, and have fun being a mom!