Making the holidays special with family traditions
The holiday season can be full of beauty and togetherness, but it can also feel busy, loud, and overwhelming. This can be especially true when you have young children at home.
It is so easy to put the pressure on yourself as the parent to pull out all the stops and do what you see everyone else doing, but traditions don’t need to be elaborate or perfectly executed to be meaningful. The moments children carry with them aren’t the ones that looked the best, they’re the ones that felt safe, connected, and joyful.
This season, the goal isn’t to do more. It’s to be more intentional with what you already have.
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Traditions that begin with mindset
Classic holiday traditions
New family traditions
Montessori-inspired ways to celebrate
Simplifying family traditions
Traditions that begin with mindset
Some of the most meaningful holiday traditions begin with how we approach the season.
Age-appropriate giving can look simple and tangible for young children:
Making drawings or cards for family members, neighbors, or caregivers
Choosing a toy to pass along together when it’s time to donate
Talking about giving in concrete, everyday language
Practicing gratitude and connection doesn’t have to be formal:
Naming one thing you’re thankful for at dinner or bedtime
Sharing a favorite part of the day or week
Creating small pauses to be together, without distractions
Talking about something someone did for you that made you happy
Brainstorm ways as a family to potentially spread holiday joy
These traditions build slowly, over time, and can lean into the pure heart that children have.
Classic holiday traditions
You don’t need to reinvent the season to make it special. Familiar traditions, adapted to the pace of young children, can feel comforting to parents and children.
Reading holiday books together
Baking or cooking holiday classics
Decorating the tree together
Looking at Christmas lights together
A yearly keepsake made with your child
Themed advents
Holiday movie nights
Making a paper chain countdown to Christmas
Sipping hot cocoa together
Lighting a Christmas-scented candle
Playing outside, in snow or other weather
Wearing matching PJs on Christmas Eve
An exclusive Christmas meal or treat
Singing Christmas carols together
Making gingerbread houses
Writing letters to Santa
Making ornaments together
Secret Santa gift exchange
Looking for new traditions?
If your family is ready for something new (but simple), here are some alternative family holiday tradition ideas:
Read books, listen to music, or share simple stories about different celebrations such as Christmas, Hanukkah, or St. Nikolaus Day. This can be as easy as lighting candles, noticing symbols, or talking about how families around the world celebrate.
Making snowflakes to bring a white Christmas indoors
Each person adds something to the 'family stocking'
A wrapping party
Light a candle at dinner all December, taking turns who gets to light it (or with young children, who gets to blow it out)
An act of kindness advent
Family gratitude list
No-electronics night, where the family can unplug and connect with puzzles or games
Family sleepover
Midnight dessert feast - have treats in bed Christmas Eve
Quiet night of reading together
Montessori-inspired ways to celebrate
Sensory experiences might include:
Exploring natural textures like pinecones, fabric, or wooden ornaments
Noticing seasonal scents, sounds, and light
A holiday-themed sensory activity
Practical life moments can naturally become part of the celebration:
Wrapping gifts together
Setting the table or helping prepare food
Carrying decorations, wiping surfaces, anything that keeps them contributing in real ways
For years you need to simplify holiday traditions
Some years might ask us to slow down. Holiday traditions can be simplified to meet your needs depending on the season of life you are in, while still committed to doing it every year. Simplifying traditions doesn’t mean you’re letting them go, it means you’re meeting your family where they are.
Baking together might mean using store-bought dough
Decorating a small tabletop tree instead of a large one
Watching videos of Christmas lights while listening to holiday music
Coloring Christmas pages instead of a Christmas craft
Having a movie on in the background while you wrap presents
Children don’t need everything to stay the same. They need to feel calm, included, and connected.
When there are young children at home, it’s okay to choose less.
The holidays don’t need to be full to be meaningful. In fact, simple, familiar routines can be especially comforting during busy seasons. Choose traditions that feel manageable, and let go of the idea that you need to do it all.
However this season looks for your family, we hope it’s filled with moments of connection, calm, and togetherness. We’d love to hear which traditions your family returns to year after year.